HOW TO STAY HAPPILY MARRIED: Survey
HOW TO STAY HAPPILY MARRIED
Recently I asked many of you for your advice on marriage as I approach our wedding day in May. Well, here it is! The serious, the practical, the light-hearted, just as you gave it to me! Lots of it! We appreciate it all! I’ve had a blast listening to you and thought you’d all enjoy hearing it too! So, here we go…
“Marriage is like climbing a mountain. Your home is base camp where there’s comfort, support, love and nurturing. You have that base to fall back on every day.” (Married 40+ years)…,”Love is a noun, not just a verb. In the movies it’s a noun. In real life, it’s a verb. Something you do. Meaning you go home and express love even when you don’t feel loving and even if you’re mad. The response you get generates even more love.”….“Just shut up”…. “Just listen”…..
“Marry someone who you really like, not just are infatuated with.”….“Marry someone you really trust. Don’t ever cheat on each other. It’s too hard to win trust back.”….“It’s important to have the same values. When hardships hit the fan, if you have the same values you’ll make the right decisions together.”….
“Never renovate a house together, especially a kitchen.”….“Have lots of things in common to do together. It’s too lonely if you are doing the majority of your stuff apart, and too tempting”….“Don’t marry, period”….“My wife is first in my life. Not the kids. I make sure she knows she’s number one. That way, she feels secure and the marriage will last. Without a strong marriage, the kids have nothing. Raising kids is very demanding. It’s too easy to let everything else go.”….“Be sure you agree on how money is to be spent. Have the same priorities.”…. “Don’t be separated for long periods of time. You grow apart.”…….
“Give ten hugs a day minimum.” (She’s a psychologist)….“Your mate should be your dearest friend who you enjoy talking and laughing with. That will hold you together through thick and then.”….“Obey. Remember, the wife is the boss.”….
“Just marry a Farris!” (my new daughter-in-law said this. My fiancés’ name is Farris)….. “Be nice to your mate. Friendly, and kind.”….“Respect is on-going everyday. Don’t take each other for granted. My wife and I thank each other for little things everyday, even unloading the dishwasher…..“My friends criticize me for having someone in to clean the house every 2 weeks even though my wife is a stay at home mom with 2 toddlers. They say we could save that money. But in the future when the kids are grown, I don’t want a bitter old woman who wants to leave me. So, we’re as happy as clams.”….“Stay humble and thankful. Just be glad that you get to do this at all. Thank God everyday. (Married 60+ years)…..
“Never talk behind each others backs. If you expect your relatives to like your spouse, they won’t if you’ve torn him to shreds behind his back.”….
“Don’t criticize. What’s done is done”….” Be playful, be silly sometimes, like children”……”Say I love you
morning and night”…..
“Just have a really good time. Life is too short” (Spoken by a young widow who has a 6 year old child)…..“Men are very simple. Women think men are complicated. All I need, as a husband, is a calm household when I come home and respect. I think women are more intelligent.”….
“Don’t play the victim role. Poor me. You have to make choices if you don’t like something or feel you’re being treated unfairly. Speak up.”….“Be available for intimacy for your mate. Think about what he/she wants, not just you.”
“A woman should let her man feel like he’s getting his way. Women know how.”….“Keep yourself up. My wife of 50 years always cleans herself up just before I come home. She makes a big deal of it when I come in the door. I really appreciate that.”…. “Never wall paper together.”….“Marriage is a 75% overlap. He does 75% and you do 75%. Then, everything is covered.”… “Savor the joy. Go on trips, even short one day trips together.”….“Make him the top priority. Not the kids, relatives, friends or work”….“Make up your mind that marriage is a trip you have chosen to go on. You decide before hand to enjoy every part of it…the crisis, the good and the bad because you decided to take the trip and it is a huge adventure. You’re lucky to get to go at all.”….“Don’t expect your mate to be responsible for your happiness. You have to make your own self happy”…..“Put God first in your home. Pray together. That brings a special closeness.”…..
So there you have it! Take what you want from it, or what you need from it! Thanks so much! We’ll take it all to heart! We hope you’ve enjoyed reading this as much as I’ve enjoyed interviewing you!
FAVORITE QUOTES:
“Home is the place where, when you have to go there, they have to take you in.” Robert Frost
“If grass can grow through cement, love can find you at every time in your life.” (Cher)
“If a man is alone in the woods and a woman is not there to hear him, is he still wrong/” Unknown
“For myself, I am an optimist—it does not seem to be much use being anything else.” Churchill
“Of course I believe in luck! How otherwise to explain the success of some people you detest?” J. Cocteau
“At a dinner party one should eat wisely but not too well, and talk well but not too wisely.”(S. Maugham)
“Where there is great love, there are always miracles.” (Willa Cather)
Recently I asked many of you for your advice on marriage as I approach our wedding day in May. Well, here it is! The serious, the practical, the light-hearted, just as you gave it to me! Lots of it! We appreciate it all! I’ve had a blast listening to you and thought you’d all enjoy hearing it too! So, here we go…
“Marriage is like climbing a mountain. Your home is base camp where there’s comfort, support, love and nurturing. You have that base to fall back on every day.” (Married 40+ years)…,”Love is a noun, not just a verb. In the movies it’s a noun. In real life, it’s a verb. Something you do. Meaning you go home and express love even when you don’t feel loving and even if you’re mad. The response you get generates even more love.”….“Just shut up”…. “Just listen”…..
“Marry someone who you really like, not just are infatuated with.”….“Marry someone you really trust. Don’t ever cheat on each other. It’s too hard to win trust back.”….“It’s important to have the same values. When hardships hit the fan, if you have the same values you’ll make the right decisions together.”….
“Never renovate a house together, especially a kitchen.”….“Have lots of things in common to do together. It’s too lonely if you are doing the majority of your stuff apart, and too tempting”….“Don’t marry, period”….“My wife is first in my life. Not the kids. I make sure she knows she’s number one. That way, she feels secure and the marriage will last. Without a strong marriage, the kids have nothing. Raising kids is very demanding. It’s too easy to let everything else go.”….“Be sure you agree on how money is to be spent. Have the same priorities.”…. “Don’t be separated for long periods of time. You grow apart.”…….
“Give ten hugs a day minimum.” (She’s a psychologist)….“Your mate should be your dearest friend who you enjoy talking and laughing with. That will hold you together through thick and then.”….“Obey. Remember, the wife is the boss.”….
“Just marry a Farris!” (my new daughter-in-law said this. My fiancés’ name is Farris)….. “Be nice to your mate. Friendly, and kind.”….“Respect is on-going everyday. Don’t take each other for granted. My wife and I thank each other for little things everyday, even unloading the dishwasher…..“My friends criticize me for having someone in to clean the house every 2 weeks even though my wife is a stay at home mom with 2 toddlers. They say we could save that money. But in the future when the kids are grown, I don’t want a bitter old woman who wants to leave me. So, we’re as happy as clams.”….“Stay humble and thankful. Just be glad that you get to do this at all. Thank God everyday. (Married 60+ years)…..
“Never talk behind each others backs. If you expect your relatives to like your spouse, they won’t if you’ve torn him to shreds behind his back.”….
“Don’t criticize. What’s done is done”….” Be playful, be silly sometimes, like children”……”Say I love you
morning and night”…..
“Just have a really good time. Life is too short” (Spoken by a young widow who has a 6 year old child)…..“Men are very simple. Women think men are complicated. All I need, as a husband, is a calm household when I come home and respect. I think women are more intelligent.”….
“Don’t play the victim role. Poor me. You have to make choices if you don’t like something or feel you’re being treated unfairly. Speak up.”….“Be available for intimacy for your mate. Think about what he/she wants, not just you.”
“A woman should let her man feel like he’s getting his way. Women know how.”….“Keep yourself up. My wife of 50 years always cleans herself up just before I come home. She makes a big deal of it when I come in the door. I really appreciate that.”…. “Never wall paper together.”….“Marriage is a 75% overlap. He does 75% and you do 75%. Then, everything is covered.”… “Savor the joy. Go on trips, even short one day trips together.”….“Make him the top priority. Not the kids, relatives, friends or work”….“Make up your mind that marriage is a trip you have chosen to go on. You decide before hand to enjoy every part of it…the crisis, the good and the bad because you decided to take the trip and it is a huge adventure. You’re lucky to get to go at all.”….“Don’t expect your mate to be responsible for your happiness. You have to make your own self happy”…..“Put God first in your home. Pray together. That brings a special closeness.”…..
So there you have it! Take what you want from it, or what you need from it! Thanks so much! We’ll take it all to heart! We hope you’ve enjoyed reading this as much as I’ve enjoyed interviewing you!
FAVORITE QUOTES:
“Home is the place where, when you have to go there, they have to take you in.” Robert Frost
“If grass can grow through cement, love can find you at every time in your life.” (Cher)
“If a man is alone in the woods and a woman is not there to hear him, is he still wrong/” Unknown
“For myself, I am an optimist—it does not seem to be much use being anything else.” Churchill
“Of course I believe in luck! How otherwise to explain the success of some people you detest?” J. Cocteau
“At a dinner party one should eat wisely but not too well, and talk well but not too wisely.”(S. Maugham)
“Where there is great love, there are always miracles.” (Willa Cather)
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